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Archive for October 2009

Today Sakura is 3 months old!! She officially graduates from being a newborn into an infant! Woo hoo – we made it!! On latest check she is about 5.8kg and 62(!)cm and is a fairly long and skinny baby! She still has those long legs that Dr. Awful kept telling me about when she was on the inside. Her neck is really stable now – about 90% I think in about 2-3 weeks she’ll have pretty much full control of it.

She still babbles a lot and “complains” and chats its very cute!! She doesn’t really like to be held unless its Mom or Dad and she doesn’t really like us doing it that much. She would rather lie there and stare up at you… so she’s not a super cuddly baby although shes very cute! She also still craves stuff going on around her and loves to go out in the stroller or sling. She actually fell asleep in the stroller today and its to big to get into the genkan of our house so I just let her sleep in it out there next to the back sliding door…it was a nice day and I was less than a meter away from her so I figured it was ok and she had a longer nap than if I had tried to take her inside! Actually she missed her afternoon nap yesterday and it was like WW3 had started so she really needs to get in at least 3 or 4 a day. She sleeps quite a bit… if she goes for about 2 hours without a nap she is so cranky.

I got another plugged duct and experience horrible boobie pain again. I thought that after my milk supply had regulated I wouldn’t have anymore issues but the last 2 days I had a nasty hard breast and pain 😦 Seems to have taken care of itself though as things feel better now.

We had Sakura’s Omiyamaeri last weekend with her grandparents! Heres a sample picture for all those not on facebook!



In other news – its Ryohei and my 3rd Anniversary as a couple! He’s not going to be around tonight because he has a drinking party… great timing, eh? But thats ok since I knew in advance and with the baby and no babysitters near by its not like we can really do anything right now.. maybe next year.


I guess thats it for now!


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Yay I made a friend!

I met A-san yesterday at our “foreign interest” oyako club. She’s the same age as me and has a cutie pie son who is about a year older than Sakura. What is TOTALLY random though is that her husband and Ryohei went to the same kindy and same elementary school together until Ryohei moved in the 4th year.

We had no idea – but since they were both from the same area we though maybe they would have heard of eachother but were surprised they were actually good friends and apparently both joined the kendo club together.

A-san was born and raised in Tokyo and told me that moving her was like moving to foreign country compared to what she was used to. THANK GOD its not just me… I was quite happy to find a kindred spirit as pretty much everyone else I’ve met here has been born and raised in the inaka and don’t realize there is more to life beyond the rice paddies.

Ryohei and her husband haven’t seen each other for about 15 years but I think next month all 6 of us are going to get together for a play date. Ryohei doesn’t have any friends in the area either so I’m hoping that he will re-kindle his friendship with his old friend so that he has someone around to do manly things like eat ramen and play videogames with. A-san seems very nice and in a year or so when Sakura is a bit older she has a handsome onii-san to play with (this little boy is REALLY cute)

Speaking of my little blossom – I will never brag about her sleep again. Three days in a row of waking up around 4am is NOT fun.. she won’t go back to sleep until 5:30 or 6 which is awful… I have been so exhausted… if it gets to 5:30 and she won’t sleep I pawn her off on to Ryohei but before then I just suck it up and nurse her or hold her until she falls asleep again. She also WOULD NOT sleep tonight… so yup I cursed my good luck. Maybe its just a passing phase – I think she’s headed into her 3 month growth spurt cause my chikubi haven’t felt this raw and sore for a while.


x-posted from my facebook but its my new fave pic!


Might as well stock up on blog posts while I have the time…

Sakura didn’t have an afternoon nap today so she went to bed fairly early and without any issues. She’s 12 weeks exactly today… I will probably curse myself by writing this but she SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT last night… she went to sleep a little later than usual because I wanted Ryohei to give her a bath when he got home at 6:30 instead of me doing it at 5:30 and she was in a decent mood… and we went to bed at 10:30pm and I didn’t wake up once until around 4ish!! She didn’t really wake up then, just had some boobies and slept until about 6:30… I was shocked. She usually needs a feed at around 12ish and between 2-3…

I have to say that as of right now she’s definitely a good sleeper. Gosh I hope it lasts – I really love that she consistently goes to bed between 6-7 which leaves quite a bit of time for me to make dinner/surf the web/talk to Ryohei.

He is taking Monday off next week so we can go and apply for her Japanese passport. Should be fun – not sure exactly what we will do after. He’s working some of Sunday and he didn’t get the 3 day weekend last week – so he’s looking forward to spending more time with Sakura err.. I mean us. He was so disappointed I put her to bed early today.. we want to push her bedtime up an hour so that he can do her bath since she sleeps SO early they really don’t have anytime together besides weekend.

In exactly a week and a half Sakura and I will be taking a plane down to Osaka to see all my old friends!! I’ll be seeing Sassymoo and Corinne and a bunch of other friends I haven’t seen for 6 months!! I can’t wait… they’ll all get to meet Sakura too! Ahh.. I miss Kansai – I hope I don’t get to homesick for it while I’m there…

It will be interesting to see how the plane ride goes… maybe a much shorter preview of December… can’t believe I’ll be going home so soon! Twice in a year – a first for me! I’m looking forward to spending Christmas in country where its actually done properly – no Kentucky Fried Chicken and Strawberry Shortcakes here! Sakura won’t know whats going on – but I haven’t spend a Christmas at home for about 5 years now so I’m really looking forward to it.. 🙂


Posted on: October 19, 2009

I have a question to ask.. another baby related one. I’m just curious I’ve only had experience with just the one. But Sakura seems to always need constant entertainment. If I don’t take her out AT LEAST once a day she gets so angry but once we are out she is usually happy. Same thing with playing… she tolerates being only held for a little bit but if I’m not showing her toys or talking with her she gets really fussy.

Is this part of her personality or are all babies like this? Does this mean shes going to be super active? She’s pretty active already she kicks and swings her arms like she’s practicing to be in the Olympics!

Since I’ve only been around her I’m not sure what is part of babyness and what is Sakura’s personality.. I’d love to know more about “her.”So far this is what I do know…

She likes to be naked. (If I take off her clothes and diaper she gets really giddy – we are worried for her future)

She likes her bath.

She likes when I blow raspberries and stick my tongue out.

She hates pacifiers and WILL NOT take one.

She likes to be the center of attention, she makes a lot of “complaining” noises if I’m talking to someone besides her like Ryohei or on Skype.

She LOVES to go outside and will look around at everything until she falls asleep.

She tolerates people talking to her and looking (ok who am I kidding –  poking) at her 😦 at her but doesn’t really like being held by strangers.

She has a hilarious angry face.. ok thats not a personality trait but its really cute. My FIL said her mouth likes like the Japanese hiragana “he” = へ

Recently I’ll be feeding her and she’ll pull off and just grin at me.. its hilarious I couldn’t stop laughing.

That being said she still cries quite a bit – I’d say at least an hour or two a day of crying some of it inconsolable UNLESS I go out… which is going to be hard when winter really comes.

Anyways thats what shes like at 3 months.. I’m hoping to get to know her a bit better in the next couple of months…


Posted on: October 18, 2009

Yay how nice was it to actually have family time this weekend!

We did a lot of going out and even managed to “celebrate” my b-day a little bit. Well we went out for 100 yen sushi and ended up eating almost 3000 yen worth! Sakura was a really really good girl until the last 10 minutes or so we were there when she got tired/hungry and had a massive meltdown. I could feel the daggers from all the other patrons so we got out.

My birthday present was a TV! (lol) We haven’t had one since we moved to Nagaoka and my Japanese has been getting worse without one. Since I spend most of my day in “english” now with Sakura my Japanese has sort of gotten sloppy plus I enjoy a few Japanese programs. We were almost going to get a 32 inch flat LCD tv but we decided it was too over budget for now and got a 5000 yen 14 inch analog tv instead lol. We might get the bigger one when we have a bit more in the bank to spend on that kind of thing. The 14 incher is fine for now and should be until Japan switches to completely digital broadcast in July ’11 – my little girl will be almost 2 then! Wow.

Today we went out for ramen and then went shopping at this huge shopping center (the one that sells Nutella – which I stocked up on btw) I can get the rest of the stuff at the bigger Nagaoka market but not the Nutella and since its a bit of a drive it was better just to stock up on it lol. While we were there we saw the Melty Kiss winter only chocolates were out!!! So exciting! I love Melty Kiss, I used to buy it when I lived in the states as well from the Japanese market.We also got a laundry rack for hanging clothes inside since its already starting to get COLD here. It should start snowing around this time next month – not really sure if I am looking forward to that.

In other news, Ryoheis mom emailed him and told him she had rented a kimono for Iroha to do her Omiya Maeri today and asked if we wanted to have one for Sakura. I figured take advantage of the free fancy kimono and good picture op and told him to say yes so we will have her (LATE) shrine visit next Sunday. I can’t wait to see her in the kimono!! Last week I printed out over 100 pictures from her birth until recent to put in the albums I had recieved. It was crazy to see how much she had changed in just 12 weeks… thats right she will be 12 weeks on Tuesday which means no longer a newborn. A legit baby!

She hasn’t started laughing yet but I hope she will in the next week or two.. she does make very high pitched squeals and kick and “swim” when shes excited though.

Speaking of… need some sempai mama advice. I think Ryohei is fairly sad that she doesn’t really react to him. She definitely prefers me – which is not surprising considering I deliver her food and am the one to hangout/play with her for all her waking hours. About when do babies start recognizing and “enjoying” their Daddy? I try to make sure Ryohei and her have time together but he gets really disappointed when she won’t react for him like she does to me and says stuff like “she prefers you anyways…” and goes back to his computer or whatever while poor Sakuras just lying there on her blanky 😦 I think if she was a bit more responsive to him he would play with her more… so just wondering if you guys have any advice or when she’ll start being more sociable with him…

Recent Sakura –> DVC00107

Today is my birthday but it felt like any other day unfortunately 😦 Actually worse than most other days… Sakura was up for a bit last night for the first time in a while which meant less sleep then I’m used to and then she didn’t nap a lot this afternoon and had a huge sobbing breakdown on the way home from th supermarket aroun 5:30 pm.

Needless to say I got her to sleep by 7 and am now “relaxing.” Ryohei brought me some flowers… not bought – brought. He had some business meeting today and they were extra left over Lilys. They smell nice but that was it. Such an uneventful day… I’ve heard that once you become a parent your own birthday sort of just becomes a non-event. So true… not sure how I feel about that.

I did treat myself to a Starbucks though! My beloved creme brulee is gone now but in just a few short weeks the Holiday Season drinks will start – I’m hoping the Gingerbread Latte will be back… I could consume those everyday and not get tired but of course my poor wallet and poor “get my body back” regime.

Sakura will be 3 months soon and now that things are more or less in some sort of routine I’m considering options for making a bit of money since that would be very helpful. I’m considering sending out some resumes to freelance translation agencies again but may wait until we get back from our vacation in Dec. Sakura will be 6 months end of January and I’ll feel more comfortable having her spend a half-day or two a week in the local kindy so I can get some work done. There are two that take non full time kids about a 5 minute from our house and both of them are fairly reasonable.

I’ll also be going to collect my “unemployment insurance” from Hello Work come January.. I was thinking of just going to “look and collect” but I may seriously consider something if I can find it although we’ll see if theres anything out there that would be a decent fit.

So for a Sakura update – she’s growing up so fast! Her neck is almost stable and I think in another couple weeks it will be completely there. She’s been drooling and “foaming at the mouth” recently. I can see where her two bottom front teeth are going to come in. They haven’t started poking through yet but there is a depression in her gums where they will be coming out.

She still is a relatively sensitive baby and we have a few crying jags daily especially towards the mid-afternoon and onwards. She seems to get bored easily and always wants some sort of activity or going ons to occupy her. It can be pretty exhausting… not that I would want a baby that just lays there staring off into space but when I’m trying to get stuff done and she’s getting bored and starts screaming her head off it can be quite trying.

At least her nighttime sleeping for the most part is good. She usually nurses until she is drowsy and then I can leave her to fall asleep and she’ll stay that way for the next 6-8 hours. Then nighttime feed between 2-3 and asleep until 6ish. Its really nice because I can get a lot of stuff done at night which is part of the reason if I took on a bit of freelance translation work I think it would be ok…

Ryohei has been so busy the last month.. I think that he must have worked at least 2-3 hours overtime everynight and then most of the weekends. He had his last busy day today but has a drinking party tomorrow and won’t be coming home so it will be just Sakura and me. The last time she was 6 weeks and we had a horrible 5 hour crying jag which ended in me just having to let her cry until she was tired… so praying that it won’t be a repeat performance. I put her to bed every night alone anyways but at least Ryohei is around in theory. Parenting overnight on my own still makes me nervous.

Things have been ok with us lately… with Ryohei being so late recently we haven’t really gotten to talk much or be together… and the last couple weekends he’s either been working or we’ve been with his relatives so we haven’t had much just the nuclear family time. I feel a bit distant right now – my life just feels like Sakura and me all the time. Since she goes to sleep so early she only sees him for about 30 minutes in the morning 😦 Oh well he should be getting home at a more reasonable hour starting next week but since Sakura goes to bed so early she won’t get to spend any time with him at night until she can stay up later. She literally HAS to been in bed by 6:30 – 7 or she goes insane… at least I know WHY I was having so many issues earlier in her life. She is just not a night owl and we were keeping her up too late.

Anyways I guess thats it… life sort of feels like its passing me by. I’m looking forward to going to Osaka at the end of the month to break up the monotomy of it all.