Once Upon a Tanbo

About me

So who am I? Thats a good question – one that it might take a long time to explain. For now the short version should suffice. I’m American, 25, currently married to a 25 year old Japanese man with a daughter due apprx. July 21, 2009.

Up until now I have been working on the JET program as a CIR (coordinator for international relations) in Kobe City but due to the impending birth of my daughter and my husbands new job as a civil servant for a small city hall we moved to the countryside in Niigata.

Up until this point I have always lived in big cities – my husband was born and raised in this area in case you are interested – and the adjustment has been difficult. Add to the fact that we are currently living with my inlaws and I’m in my late 3rd trimester of pregnancy and life just isn’t as fun as it used to be.

However we are working through the difficulties and planning to move to a larger town and get our of my PIL’s house by the end of June and hopefully begin our life as a 3 person family unit. Currently my blog has been home to a bunch of rants but I’m hoping as I slowly get used to life here the blog will focus more on our family and especially our daughter who I can’t wait to meet.

Thanks for stopping by!


13 Responses to "About me"

Hi Sara! I love reading your blog and hope that this new forum will be better for you. I would love it if I could get the password.. I am American from Sun Valley, Idaho and have lived in Japan for over 20 years. I have a Japanese DH and a nearly 12 year old DS.
It is a struggle to be a parent in a country other than where you grew up but life here is definitely a good and bad adventure.
Looking forward to hearing about the birth of your BG!

Thanks for the comment Carol! It was nice to get that and your email as well πŸ™‚

I’m looking forward to giving birth soon – in the sense that it means I’ll be getting it over with (lol)

Hi Sara, I’m Benay’s sister, and I have also being reading your blog, I don’t expect your password, just wanted to let you no that I am a lurker, and that I completely understand what your going through, (apart from the inter national relationship side) and also that I don’t think your crazy, and also, never commented because I didn’t want my sis thinking i was stalking her and her friends lol.

Hi Kylee!!! Thanks for “coming out” I never knew that Nay’s big sis was reading my blog! What sort of situation were you in that was similar to mine? I’m curious!! Congrats on your wedding btw!! I know that Nay is really looking forward to going back and being a part of it πŸ™‚

Well I don’t even have the exscuse to say that it was my first baby, it was actually my second baby. Basically i only moved about 6-7 hours away from my friends and family, but being pregnant and isolated and feeling completely alone, i don’t think it would matter how far away you were. We could hardly afford to use the payphone to call home and we lived about 20km’s out of town with no landline. So most convo’s were usually short and sweet, never long enough !

So, no, i don’t think that you’re ranting and raving, I think that you have every right to feel the way that you are feeling right now, Does your husband ever actaully read your blog ??? Maybe in all honesty, he just doesn’t understand how you are really really feeling, I no that my partner at the time didn’t, he thought that he “should” have been enough.

Don’t mind the weight gain either, have you really ever seen an over weight japanese person ? I don’t no what it is whether their metabolism is higher than everyone elses, but you’re having a baby, you’re aloud to “balloon” if you wish !

My wedding, I no it’s like wow, a day that i honestly never thought would happen for me, and OMG it is ! lol, 9 weeks to go, i’m so excited, and I can’t wait for Nay to come back, I’m going to need to her little sister already married before me advice !!! ( I still can’t believe that she beat me to it)

God, this is huge, I’m soooo sorry, (hope you don’t mind) all i can say, is keep your chin up, you already sound like a strong woman, so it shouldn’t be to difficult !!!!

Take care

Sara, sorry to hijack your blog, lol, but Kylee, like I would even think you were stalking my friends, hahaha! A blog is just that a blog… where the writer welcomes anybody to read it! And like you said, you do know how Sara feels in this situation because you were there once yourself πŸ™‚ I’m sure you could give Sara lots better advice and support than a lot of people could anyway πŸ™‚

Hahaha hijack away πŸ˜›

Hi Sara, I’m on Foreign Wives Club as scottishlaurachina and have been reading your blog as we are due more or less same time. I really feel for you, it must be so hard to be stuck in middle of nowhere knowing no-one, I am going through something vaguely similar as I’ve had to come back to UK to have the baby and hubby is still in China but apart from not having any mates here my life is nowhere near as hard as yours as I am in my home country and staying with family.

So keep venting on your blog if that helps you to stay sane and keep making positive steps – you have done so well to find an apartment and make plans to move. Oh, finally, I cannot BELIEVE how rude they were at the health clinic, if I were you I would tell them all to p*ss off!!! I am very overweight, even when not pregnant, and do get some of that in China but nothing like the rudeness you have faced in Japan! Keep your chin up, anybody who treats you like that is clearly an ignorant idiot!!!

I would love to have a password to read all of your blog, especially if there are things related to BG there as it’s great hearing how you are getting on given how close our due dates are. I have consultant appt next week to confirm date for c-section, I am hoping for 38 weeks/13 July but may have to wait to 39 weeks/20 July. Okay, enough of an essay, stay strong, Laura xxx

Wow we are REALLY close! But I am super jealous since in all likely hood you will be able to see your baby before mine comes out. I think she’s in for the long haul… in a way thats good since we are officially moving in to our new place the day that I turn 37 weeks! (full term!) It must be hard being apart from hubby even in your own country! I know I missed mine a ton when I went bac k to America 2 years ago and he had to stay in Japan for work. I think you are the closest thing I have to a due date buddy!! You must be excited for your baby.. I think from what you mentioned you are keeping the sex a surprise? I wish I could do that, but I really really HAD to know. Maybe next time?

Hi Sara
Bit off topic, and you don’t know me I am just a random lurker who has once commented on your old blog, however I have read yours and I was wondering if I could have the name of your old female GYN in Kobe, because I have a few health issues and I really would feel more comfortable with a female doctor and there seem to be zero in Kobe.
Sorry to hijack your blog like this. If you had the time to just leave a comment on mine about this, I would be most appreciative but I know you must be busy with your pregnancy.

check your blog πŸ™‚

Hi Sara!

Just wanted to check in and say hi. I was a long time reader (and stalker!!) of your blog before it went password-protected so I just wanted to pop in and say how much I miss your blog and hope you are doing well πŸ™‚


Hi, I’m a 4th year Japanese student at the University of Florida. I’ve been reading your blog for about 2 years (Well, since about a year before you switched to WordPress). I’m not going to ask for your password to read your protected posts, but I really miss reading your blog. I hope you have some regular posts soon.

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